Miss(ed) Independent

🎶She got her own thingThat’s why I love herMiss Independent🎵 I am a self identified Independent Woman 🎵throw your hands up at me🎶, the shoes on my feet (not that there’s much reason to wear shoes at the moment) the clothes I’m wearing, the house I live in, and the car I’m driving, I boughtContinue reading “Miss(ed) Independent”

Keeping The Romance Throughout The Rona

Happy Valentine’s Day to all my couples, throuples and polygamous parings. With the lack of a dating season and restaurants and borders closed, Valentine’s Day 2021 may feel different to the previous years. This time last year coronavirus was on the horizon – a month before the national lockdown – Valentine’s Day was anomaly inContinue reading “Keeping The Romance Throughout The Rona”

Menu for romance

February, the month of love and for us parents can sometimes just be another day at the office. Finding time for yourself is hard enough, let alone finding time to spend with your partner. (These babies can really steal our groove). Nevertheless, we have to put in the work. Relationships require constant effort,but also some spice and all things nice- if you know what I mean?! Everyone has their own views on Valentine’sContinue reading “Menu for romance”

Protect Platonic Friendships

Platonic – a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex – Urban Dictionary In an era of sexual liberty and casual sex with friends, I feel like I’m witnessing the end of true platonic friendships. There’s a common misconception that there’s sexual tension underpinning all friendships between men and women. Certain individuals tendContinue reading “Protect Platonic Friendships”

Pause for reflection

I want to start this post as I mean to go on – with positivity and love – so first of all I’d like to congratulate you! Yes, you!  2020 was a year which tested us all in ways we could never have imagined. Whether you found yourself suddenly isolated, or spending a bit too much timeContinue reading “Pause for reflection”


Breadcrumbing – the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (i.e. “breadcrumbs”) in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort,” Breadcrumbers are sadistic individuals who revel in the act of leading someone on with no intention of following through with their romantic or sexual suggestions. I’m referring to the “whenContinue reading “BEWARE OF THE BREADCRUMBERS”

Black love on the brain

I was on Bumble doing my standard swipe to the left, to the left when I stumbled across something that made me actually want to swipe right… And it wasn’t because I’d spotted a hottie! For Black History Month, this year Bumble are celebrating the joy of Black Love with their #MyLoveIsBlackLove campaign. Everyday in October they’veContinue reading “Black love on the brain”

Black Love – Celeb’ edition

UK Black History Month is almost over, and I feel compelled to give you a countdown of black couples I respect. Normally I think blind admiration of other couples is problematic as the idolisation of couples who only present mono-faceted depictions of love, generates unrealistic expectations of a relationship. Unfortunately, due to the media’s desireContinue reading “Black Love – Celeb’ edition”


I’ve always been fascinated by the notion of star signs, and I’m not the only one if Tyrese’s ‘Signs of Love Makin’ is anything to go by. Now let me be clear, I don’t really go for the whole Mystic Meg, rubbing her crystal ball and telling me what misfortune awaits me. (Although if youContinue reading “SUN SIGNS IN LOVE”


BLACK LOVE:[blak lev] nounan intense feeling of deep affection or spiritual journey experienced by two people of African descent This month (October) is Black History Month and I felt compelled to mark the occasion with an exploration of what black love means to me. Black love, in every form (heterosexual, homosexual, monogamy and polygamy) isContinue reading “BLACK L♥VE: WHAT BLACK LOVE MEANS TO ME”